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A Girl Who Had Thousands of Dreams...❤️
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Shraddha Kapoor
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Wow, reading this really hit home for me.Tears rolling out from my eyes. It feels like you're describing the exact situation I'm living through right now. When I read those words, it's like they were written for me, like someone else understood exactly what I've been going through.
I don’t know how to explain it, but everything from the girl who lost her way to the point where she starts to value herself—I've been there. The pain of adjusting to circumstances, the feeling of being lost, and then, just when you think you've figured it out, love shows up in the most unexpected and complicated way.
I feel like the words about emotional unavailability, running away from places, and trying to fill a void with other things… that’s all me. I tried to move on, but no one else has that same place in my heart. It’s like no one else could replace them. Even after everything, I realize I’m still attached in a way I can’t explain.
And then there’s that realization—the one where, after a year, you realize that the only thing that matters is them. Everything else is just background noise, and you don't even want anything else. You just want that connection. It’s both comforting and heartbreaking.
But in a way, reading your story made me realize something—I’m not as alone in this as I thought. I can’t believe how much this resonates with me. It makes me feel like I’m not crazy for feeling all these things. It's like someone gets it, gets me, even if we’re miles apart.
@AAROHI ,,How did you get to the point of being fine with just having HIM in your heart? That part, for me, is still a mystery... How do you find peace with that?
being "fine" with just having HIM in your heart—is tough, especially when there are so many expectations from society and our families. It's like there's a whole world outside telling you what you should want, what you should be doing, and who you should love. How can you be at peace with your own heart when the rest of the world, including your parents, is expecting you to follow a different path?
For me, getting to the point where I was fine with just having him in my heart wasn’t easy. It took a lot of inner conflict, tears, and self-doubt. At first, I tried to run away from it, telling myself I should be focusing on other things, that I shouldn’t let one person define my happiness. But the more I pushed it away, the more I realized I couldn’t force myself to feel something I didn’t. The love, the connection—it was always there, deep inside me, whether I wanted to admit it or not.
The truth is, I don’t think it’s about “giving up” on everything else; it’s about accepting what you feel. I had to learn to accept that some things don’t fit neatly into the boxes society wants to put them in. I had to give myself permission to feel what I feel without shame. It wasn’t about denying my love or trying to find it elsewhere, it was about understanding that this love—this unique, complicated feeling—was valid.
But I know it’s hard. How do you survive in this world, where you’re constantly told to sacrifice your own happiness for the sake of everyone else? Parents, society, friends—they all have expectations, and we grow up with this idea that we’re supposed to follow a certain script. We’re supposed to find love in the “right” way, live the “right” life. And when you feel differently, or when your heart doesn’t follow that script, it can make you feel like you’re betraying something or someone.
I’ve wondered that too: how do we survive without hurting the ones we love? The answer isn’t always clear, and sometimes it feels impossible. It’s like you're caught between your own needs and the needs of the people around you.
But in the end, I think it comes down to balance. It’s about being true to yourself without losing sight of the people who matter. The hardest part is realizing that it’s okay to not have everything figured out, and it's okay to follow your own heart—even if that means disappointing others along the way. I lost to him. The most important thing, though, is finding peace with your own choices, so that when you stand in front of your family, you can say with honesty: This is my truth.
But, my worry now is how do we even begin to explain that to our families without feeling like we’re letting them down? I wish there was a way to make them understand. Have you ever tried?
I don’t know how to explain it, but everything from the girl who lost her way to the point where she starts to value herself—I've been there. The pain of adjusting to circumstances, the feeling of being lost, and then, just when you think you've figured it out, love shows up in the most unexpected and complicated way.
I feel like the words about emotional unavailability, running away from places, and trying to fill a void with other things… that’s all me. I tried to move on, but no one else has that same place in my heart. It’s like no one else could replace them. Even after everything, I realize I’m still attached in a way I can’t explain.
And then there’s that realization—the one where, after a year, you realize that the only thing that matters is them. Everything else is just background noise, and you don't even want anything else. You just want that connection. It’s both comforting and heartbreaking.
But in a way, reading your story made me realize something—I’m not as alone in this as I thought. I can’t believe how much this resonates with me. It makes me feel like I’m not crazy for feeling all these things. It's like someone gets it, gets me, even if we’re miles apart.
@AAROHI ,,How did you get to the point of being fine with just having HIM in your heart? That part, for me, is still a mystery... How do you find peace with that?
being "fine" with just having HIM in your heart—is tough, especially when there are so many expectations from society and our families. It's like there's a whole world outside telling you what you should want, what you should be doing, and who you should love. How can you be at peace with your own heart when the rest of the world, including your parents, is expecting you to follow a different path?
For me, getting to the point where I was fine with just having him in my heart wasn’t easy. It took a lot of inner conflict, tears, and self-doubt. At first, I tried to run away from it, telling myself I should be focusing on other things, that I shouldn’t let one person define my happiness. But the more I pushed it away, the more I realized I couldn’t force myself to feel something I didn’t. The love, the connection—it was always there, deep inside me, whether I wanted to admit it or not.
The truth is, I don’t think it’s about “giving up” on everything else; it’s about accepting what you feel. I had to learn to accept that some things don’t fit neatly into the boxes society wants to put them in. I had to give myself permission to feel what I feel without shame. It wasn’t about denying my love or trying to find it elsewhere, it was about understanding that this love—this unique, complicated feeling—was valid.
But I know it’s hard. How do you survive in this world, where you’re constantly told to sacrifice your own happiness for the sake of everyone else? Parents, society, friends—they all have expectations, and we grow up with this idea that we’re supposed to follow a certain script. We’re supposed to find love in the “right” way, live the “right” life. And when you feel differently, or when your heart doesn’t follow that script, it can make you feel like you’re betraying something or someone.
I’ve wondered that too: how do we survive without hurting the ones we love? The answer isn’t always clear, and sometimes it feels impossible. It’s like you're caught between your own needs and the needs of the people around you.
But in the end, I think it comes down to balance. It’s about being true to yourself without losing sight of the people who matter. The hardest part is realizing that it’s okay to not have everything figured out, and it's okay to follow your own heart—even if that means disappointing others along the way. I lost to him. The most important thing, though, is finding peace with your own choices, so that when you stand in front of your family, you can say with honesty: This is my truth.
But, my worry now is how do we even begin to explain that to our families without feeling like we’re letting them down? I wish there was a way to make them understand. Have you ever tried?
If your concern is about my family... They already know that I want peace at this moment and they are not expecting me to follow any paths... They have given me the freedom to live alone since I have already gone through a lot...
Having him in my heart just means... I may not have continuous conversation with me but still it doesn't affect me... I am happy that I still Love him... If he talks that's my happiness... If not is never a matter of sadness though.
But yes it really hit me when u said it's ur story as well... That hurts..
I want to share something important with you. Alongside everything else, I’ve realized that I have my own ambitions—things I truly want to achieve for myself. I’ve made up my mind that, moving forward, I have two paths ahead of me. I'm not sure exactly how I’ll bring them to life, but I know this is the way I’ve found to give myself a sense of purpose and meaning.
Having someone in your heart, even without constant communication, really does show how deep and pure that love is. It’s a kind of love that doesn’t depend on frequent interactions, and that’s something beautiful. I admire that kind of inner peace, where our happiness doesn’t hinge on external factors. I want that for myself as well—the ability to find happiness within, regardless of outside circumstances.
But at the same time, I feel like I need both: the freedom to chase my dreams and the peace that comes from knowing I can love someone from afar. It’s not about one or the other, but about finding a balance between the two.
I hope you understand that this is not about distancing myself from what we shared or from you, but rather about creating space for me to pursue my own path while still holding on to the love in a way that fits with where I am in life right now.
This decision isn’t just about what’s happening with me and you—it’s about how I want to move forward in this world, how I want to be with myself and with others around me, even if the journey isn’t clear yet. It’s just something I have to do for my own peace, offcourse for the society to give some meaning to the purpose of my life.
I’m still figuring out how to bring all of this together, but I know this is where I need to be right now. And I hope this makes sense to you as well, wanted to share with u to think Abt it.
Having someone in your heart, even without constant communication, really does show how deep and pure that love is. It’s a kind of love that doesn’t depend on frequent interactions, and that’s something beautiful. I admire that kind of inner peace, where our happiness doesn’t hinge on external factors. I want that for myself as well—the ability to find happiness within, regardless of outside circumstances.
But at the same time, I feel like I need both: the freedom to chase my dreams and the peace that comes from knowing I can love someone from afar. It’s not about one or the other, but about finding a balance between the two.
I hope you understand that this is not about distancing myself from what we shared or from you, but rather about creating space for me to pursue my own path while still holding on to the love in a way that fits with where I am in life right now.
This decision isn’t just about what’s happening with me and you—it’s about how I want to move forward in this world, how I want to be with myself and with others around me, even if the journey isn’t clear yet. It’s just something I have to do for my own peace, offcourse for the society to give some meaning to the purpose of my life.
I’m still figuring out how to bring all of this together, but I know this is where I need to be right now. And I hope this makes sense to you as well, wanted to share with u to think Abt it.
I would say to both of you @Aarohii & @MoonFlare , do wahtever you want to do , choose whomever you want to but ultimate goal should be pleasure only. Doesnt matter if you get pleasure by pain or moving forward. Life is too short to waste.
AgreeI would say to both of you @Aarohii & @MoonFlare , do wahtever you want to do , choose whomever you want to but ultimate goal should be pleasure only. Doesnt matter if you get pleasure by pain or moving forward. Life is too short to waste.