Expectations in relationships wrong!

[winee]

“Is expectation in a relationship wrong?”

I guess Not really… unless you expect someone to be consistent and emotionally available and normal at the same time because apparently that’s asking for a Marvel superhero with WiFi stability (at this point you’re basically asking for a Disney prince with WhatsApp double tick confirmation) Lol.


The truth is, everyone enters love acting like they’re chill: “no expectations, go with the flow.” But the moment someone replies fast, shows effort, and makes you feel like a main character… boom, expectations are born like they’ve been living there rent-free all along.

It feels like a Disney scene at first… like Rapunzel finally seeing the world, or Aladdin showing a whole new world of attention and care. Suddenly your heart starts thinking, “oh… so this is how it’s supposed to feel.”

You start expecting small things that feel big now:
good morning texts that feel like sunshine
late night talks that feel like comfort like “Frozen” winter melting into warmth and replies that make your heart do that silly little Tom & Jerry chase scene of excitement.

Then reality starts doing updates without warning. One day it’s cute replies, next day it’s “seen 3 hours ago” and suddenly you’re questioning your entire personality like you did something illegal for expecting basic communication .

And the funniest part? The same person who made you expect consistency will later act like you’re too intense for noticing the inconsistency. Like excuse me sir/ma’am, you trained me for this level and now you’re acting surprised I passed the test?

Even worse… you start acting chill outside… but inside your head it’s like expecting a 365 Days level romance, only to receive ‘seen at 2:17 PM’ and emotional buffering


Ngl >> One day you feel like the heroine in a Vinnaithaandi Varuvaayaa love scene — soft, dreamy, butterflies everywhere. Next day… it feels like you’re stuck in a comedy episode of Mr. Bean, sitting alone, confused, wondering why the person who once cared so much now replies like it’s a burden.

So no, expectations aren’t the villain. The villain is when someone starts like a romantic Netflix series and slowly turns into buffering YouTube with no WiFi.

But sometimes, the most heartbreaking thing is realizing you were expecting forever from someone who was only learning how to stay for a while.

And in the end, you don’t even stop loving them properly… you just downgrade your expectations until “replying back” feels like a luxury and “not ignoring me for 6 hours” feels like emotional commitment !

But lesson learned: it’s not wrong to expect. Just make sure the person didn’t just come for the trailer… and leave before the movie even starts.





P.S:Yes maybe I talk like I don’t expect anything…
acting all mature and chill no-expectations tough fella…
CHILLLL
but deep down I’m just a certified dumb ass
who still smiles at the phone like a
cartoon character when someone texts nicely
( Like Getting A Free Ferrero Rocher Box).

 

[Honey bunch]

“Is expectation in a relationship wrong?”

I guess Not really… unless you expect someone to be consistent and emotionally available and normal at the same time because apparently that’s asking for a Marvel superhero with WiFi stability (at this point you’re basically asking for a Disney prince with WhatsApp double tick confirmation) Lol.


The truth is, everyone enters love acting like they’re chill: “no expectations, go with the flow.” But the moment someone replies fast, shows effort, and makes you feel like a main character… boom, expectations are born like they’ve been living there rent-free all along.

It feels like a Disney scene at first… like Rapunzel finally seeing the world, or Aladdin showing a whole new world of attention and care. Suddenly your heart starts thinking, “oh… so this is how it’s supposed to feel.”

You start expecting small things that feel big now:
good morning texts that feel like sunshine
late night talks that feel like comfort like “Frozen” winter melting into warmth and replies that make your heart do that silly little Tom & Jerry chase scene of excitement.

Then reality starts doing updates without warning. One day it’s cute replies, next day it’s “seen 3 hours ago” and suddenly you’re questioning your entire personality like you did something illegal for expecting basic communication .

And the funniest part? The same person who made you expect consistency will later act like you’re too intense for noticing the inconsistency. Like excuse me sir/ma’am, you trained me for this level and now you’re acting surprised I passed the test?

Even worse… you start acting chill outside… but inside your head it’s like expecting a 365 Days level romance, only to receive ‘seen at 2:17 PM’ and emotional buffering


Ngl >> One day you feel like the heroine in a Vinnaithaandi Varuvaayaa love scene — soft, dreamy, butterflies everywhere. Next day… it feels like you’re stuck in a comedy episode of Mr. Bean, sitting alone, confused, wondering why the person who once cared so much now replies like it’s a burden.

So no, expectations aren’t the villain. The villain is when someone starts like a romantic Netflix series and slowly turns into buffering YouTube with no WiFi.

But sometimes, the most heartbreaking thing is realizing you were expecting forever from someone who was only learning how to stay for a while.

And in the end, you don’t even stop loving them properly… you just downgrade your expectations until “replying back” feels like a luxury and “not ignoring me for 6 hours” feels like emotional commitment !

But lesson learned: it’s not wrong to expect. Just make sure the person didn’t just come for the trailer… and leave before the movie even starts.


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P.S:Yes maybe I talk like I don’t expect anything…
acting all mature and chill no-expectations tough fella…
CHILLLL
but deep down I’m just a certified dumb ass
who still smiles at the phone like a
cartoon character when someone texts nicely
( Like Getting A Free Ferrero Rocher Box).

And the funniest part? The same person who made you expect consistency will later act like you’re too intense for noticing the inconsistency. Like excuse me sir/ma’am, you trained me for this level and now you’re acting surprised I passed the test?

True

 

[Desi_Bull]

I need to think !

 

[winee]

I need to think !

Take ur time

 

[Anshhi]

“Is expectation in a relationship wrong?”

I guess Not really… unless you expect someone to be consistent and emotionally available and normal at the same time because apparently that’s asking for a Marvel superhero with WiFi stability (at this point you’re basically asking for a Disney prince with WhatsApp double tick confirmation) Lol.


The truth is, everyone enters love acting like they’re chill: “no expectations, go with the flow.” But the moment someone replies fast, shows effort, and makes you feel like a main character… boom, expectations are born like they’ve been living there rent-free all along.

It feels like a Disney scene at first… like Rapunzel finally seeing the world, or Aladdin showing a whole new world of attention and care. Suddenly your heart starts thinking, “oh… so this is how it’s supposed to feel.”

You start expecting small things that feel big now:
good morning texts that feel like sunshine
late night talks that feel like comfort like “Frozen” winter melting into warmth and replies that make your heart do that silly little Tom & Jerry chase scene of excitement.

Then reality starts doing updates without warning. One day it’s cute replies, next day it’s “seen 3 hours ago” and suddenly you’re questioning your entire personality like you did something illegal for expecting basic communication .

And the funniest part? The same person who made you expect consistency will later act like you’re too intense for noticing the inconsistency. Like excuse me sir/ma’am, you trained me for this level and now you’re acting surprised I passed the test?

Even worse… you start acting chill outside… but inside your head it’s like expecting a 365 Days level romance, only to receive ‘seen at 2:17 PM’ and emotional buffering


Ngl >> One day you feel like the heroine in a Vinnaithaandi Varuvaayaa love scene — soft, dreamy, butterflies everywhere. Next day… it feels like you’re stuck in a comedy episode of Mr. Bean, sitting alone, confused, wondering why the person who once cared so much now replies like it’s a burden.

So no, expectations aren’t the villain. The villain is when someone starts like a romantic Netflix series and slowly turns into buffering YouTube with no WiFi.

But sometimes, the most heartbreaking thing is realizing you were expecting forever from someone who was only learning how to stay for a while.

And in the end, you don’t even stop loving them properly… you just downgrade your expectations until “replying back” feels like a luxury and “not ignoring me for 6 hours” feels like emotional commitment !

But lesson learned: it’s not wrong to expect. Just make sure the person didn’t just come for the trailer… and leave before the movie even starts.


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P.S:Yes maybe I talk like I don’t expect anything…
acting all mature and chill no-expectations tough fella…
CHILLLL
but deep down I’m just a certified dumb ass
who still smiles at the phone like a
cartoon character when someone texts nicely
( Like Getting A Free Ferrero Rocher Box).

It is more important to seek the transparency of our own people before seeking people of different religions or countries. Great post!

Awesome Intelligence ™​

 

[SumitChing]

“Is expectation in a relationship wrong?”

I guess Not really… unless you expect someone to be consistent and emotionally available and normal at the same time because apparently that’s asking for a Marvel superhero with WiFi stability (at this point you’re basically asking for a Disney prince with WhatsApp double tick confirmation) Lol.


The truth is, everyone enters love acting like they’re chill: “no expectations, go with the flow.” But the moment someone replies fast, shows effort, and makes you feel like a main character… boom, expectations are born like they’ve been living there rent-free all along.

It feels like a Disney scene at first… like Rapunzel finally seeing the world, or Aladdin showing a whole new world of attention and care. Suddenly your heart starts thinking, “oh… so this is how it’s supposed to feel.”

You start expecting small things that feel big now:
good morning texts that feel like sunshine
late night talks that feel like comfort like “Frozen” winter melting into warmth and replies that make your heart do that silly little Tom & Jerry chase scene of excitement.

Then reality starts doing updates without warning. One day it’s cute replies, next day it’s “seen 3 hours ago” and suddenly you’re questioning your entire personality like you did something illegal for expecting basic communication .

And the funniest part? The same person who made you expect consistency will later act like you’re too intense for noticing the inconsistency. Like excuse me sir/ma’am, you trained me for this level and now you’re acting surprised I passed the test?

Even worse… you start acting chill outside… but inside your head it’s like expecting a 365 Days level romance, only to receive ‘seen at 2:17 PM’ and emotional buffering


Ngl >> One day you feel like the heroine in a Vinnaithaandi Varuvaayaa love scene — soft, dreamy, butterflies everywhere. Next day… it feels like you’re stuck in a comedy episode of Mr. Bean, sitting alone, confused, wondering why the person who once cared so much now replies like it’s a burden.

So no, expectations aren’t the villain. The villain is when someone starts like a romantic Netflix series and slowly turns into buffering YouTube with no WiFi.

But sometimes, the most heartbreaking thing is realizing you were expecting forever from someone who was only learning how to stay for a while.

And in the end, you don’t even stop loving them properly… you just downgrade your expectations until “replying back” feels like a luxury and “not ignoring me for 6 hours” feels like emotional commitment !

But lesson learned: it’s not wrong to expect. Just make sure the person didn’t just come for the trailer… and leave before the movie even starts.


View attachment 410252


P.S:Yes maybe I talk like I don’t expect anything…
acting all mature and chill no-expectations tough fella…
CHILLLL
but deep down I’m just a certified dumb ass
who still smiles at the phone like a
cartoon character when someone texts nicely
( Like Getting A Free Ferrero Rocher Box).

You’ve hit the nail on the head with that "False Advertising" analogy. It’s exactly like a movie trailer—all the high-octane action and romance are packed into the first two minutes, but when you sit for the full film, the plot disappears and the screen starts buffering.Here is the breakdown of why this hurts so much in plain English:1. The "Main Character" TrapWhen someone treats you like the lead in a Disney movie at the start, they aren’t just being nice—they are setting a baseline. When they suddenly drop to "background extra" energy, your brain experiences cognitive dissonance. You’re left wondering if the person you met was a lie, or if you did something to lose that status.2. Consistency isn’t a Superpower; It’s a ChoiceYou joked about asking for a Marvel superhero, but in reality, consistency is a basic requirement for emotional safety. If the "WiFi" is always dropping, you can't build a connection. Expecting someone to stay the same person they were when they were trying to "win" you isn't being "too much"—it's holding them accountable to the version of themselves they sold to you.3. The "Intense" GaslightThis is the most frustrating part. When you point out the change, they call you "intense" or "needy." This is essentially moving the goalposts. They trained you to expect 100%, and now that they want to give 20%, they blame you for still wanting the 100% they promised.4. The Downgrade of DignityThe most heartbreaking part of your message is the "downgrade." When a simple reply feels like a "luxury," the power dynamic has shifted completely. You've stopped being a partner and started being a waiting room.The Bottom Line:Expectations aren't the villain; inconsistency is. You aren't asking for a Disney Prince; you’re asking for someone who doesn’t turn into a stranger once the "honeymoon phase" subscription expires.

 

[Indrajith]

A big essay but okay..took time to read it..

Keep ur expectations low that may save u from all unnecessary headache's/ disappointment..

 

[Punisher78asSuperman]

A big essay but okay..took time to read it..

Keep ur expectations low that may save u from all unnecessary headache's/ disappointment..

Nice

 

[Punisher78asSuperman]

Yeah kind of tricky yes we expect those texts and it's human nature it's how we control it mentally though

 

[winee]

You’ve hit the nail on the head with that "False Advertising" analogy. It’s exactly like a movie trailer—all the high-octane action and romance are packed into the first two minutes, but when you sit for the full film, the plot disappears and the screen starts buffering.Here is the breakdown of why this hurts so much in plain English:1. The "Main Character" TrapWhen someone treats you like the lead in a Disney movie at the start, they aren’t just being nice—they are setting a baseline. When they suddenly drop to "background extra" energy, your brain experiences cognitive dissonance. You’re left wondering if the person you met was a lie, or if you did something to lose that status.2. Consistency isn’t a Superpower; It’s a ChoiceYou joked about asking for a Marvel superhero, but in reality, consistency is a basic requirement for emotional safety. If the "WiFi" is always dropping, you can't build a connection. Expecting someone to stay the same person they were when they were trying to "win" you isn't being "too much"—it's holding them accountable to the version of themselves they sold to you.3. The "Intense" GaslightThis is the most frustrating part. When you point out the change, they call you "intense" or "needy." This is essentially moving the goalposts. They trained you to expect 100%, and now that they want to give 20%, they blame you for still wanting the 100% they promised.4. The Downgrade of DignityThe most heartbreaking part of your message is the "downgrade." When a simple reply feels like a "luxury," the power dynamic has shifted completely. You've stopped being a partner and started being a waiting room.The Bottom Line:Expectations aren't the villain; inconsistency is. You aren't asking for a Disney Prince; you’re asking for someone who doesn’t turn into a stranger once the "honeymoon phase" subscription expires.

This actually makes a lot of sense.The inconsistency “waiting room” feeling is exactly what I was trying to put into words. It’s not about wanting too much—it’s about the shift that happens without explanation, and how confusing that feels when you’re left comparing it to how things used to be.
The WiFi analogy and “waiting room” part are dangerously accurate!!!

 

[SumitChing]

This actually makes a lot of sense.The inconsistency “waiting room” feeling is exactly what I was trying to put into words. It’s not about wanting too much—it’s about the shift that happens without explanation, and how confusing that feels when you’re left comparing it to how things used to be.
The WiFi analogy and “waiting room” part are dangerously accurate!!!

I’m glad those analogies hit home! It’s a relief when you finally find the words for that heavy, confusing feeling in your chest.
Jab aap "waiting room" mein hote hain, toh aap sirf ek reply ka intezaar nahi kar rahe hote—aap us purane version ka intezaar kar rahe hote hain jisne aapko "main character" mehsoos karaya tha. It’s like holding a ticket for a flight that keeps getting delayed, but no one at the counter will tell you why.

 

[Rasputin_M]

“Is expectation in a relationship wrong?”

I guess Not really… unless you expect someone to be consistent and emotionally available and normal at the same time because apparently that’s asking for a Marvel superhero with WiFi stability (at this point you’re basically asking for a Disney prince with WhatsApp double tick confirmation) Lol.


The truth is, everyone enters love acting like they’re chill: “no expectations, go with the flow.” But the moment someone replies fast, shows effort, and makes you feel like a main character… boom, expectations are born like they’ve been living there rent-free all along.

It feels like a Disney scene at first… like Rapunzel finally seeing the world, or Aladdin showing a whole new world of attention and care. Suddenly your heart starts thinking, “oh… so this is how it’s supposed to feel.”

You start expecting small things that feel big now:
good morning texts that feel like sunshine
late night talks that feel like comfort like “Frozen” winter melting into warmth and replies that make your heart do that silly little Tom & Jerry chase scene of excitement.

Then reality starts doing updates without warning. One day it’s cute replies, next day it’s “seen 3 hours ago” and suddenly you’re questioning your entire personality like you did something illegal for expecting basic communication .

And the funniest part? The same person who made you expect consistency will later act like you’re too intense for noticing the inconsistency. Like excuse me sir/ma’am, you trained me for this level and now you’re acting surprised I passed the test?

Even worse… you start acting chill outside… but inside your head it’s like expecting a 365 Days level romance, only to receive ‘seen at 2:17 PM’ and emotional buffering


Ngl >> One day you feel like the heroine in a Vinnaithaandi Varuvaayaa love scene — soft, dreamy, butterflies everywhere. Next day… it feels like you’re stuck in a comedy episode of Mr. Bean, sitting alone, confused, wondering why the person who once cared so much now replies like it’s a burden.

So no, expectations aren’t the villain. The villain is when someone starts like a romantic Netflix series and slowly turns into buffering YouTube with no WiFi.

But sometimes, the most heartbreaking thing is realizing you were expecting forever from someone who was only learning how to stay for a while.

And in the end, you don’t even stop loving them properly… you just downgrade your expectations until “replying back” feels like a luxury and “not ignoring me for 6 hours” feels like emotional commitment !

But lesson learned: it’s not wrong to expect. Just make sure the person didn’t just come for the trailer… and leave before the movie even starts.


View attachment 410252


P.S:Yes maybe I talk like I don’t expect anything…
acting all mature and chill no-expectations tough fella…
CHILLLL
but deep down I’m just a certified dumb ass
who still smiles at the phone like a
cartoon character when someone texts nicely
( Like Getting A Free Ferrero Rocher Box).

Hello and good evening Ms. . Expectation in general with anyone makes one suffer. It's not just about love, sometimes with even family members and friends one get's a set back. I my opinion and from what I have faced in life, never expect cause it end's up hurting. I am not saying do not get into relationships but keep your guard up Ms. . God bless!!! Salud!!!

 

[winee]

Hello and good evening Ms. . Expectation in general with anyone makes one suffer. It's not just about love, sometimes with even family members and friends one get's a set back. I my opinion and from what I have faced in life, never expect cause it end's up hurting. I am not saying do not get into relationships but keep your guard up Ms. . God bless!!! Salud!!!

Truee fr

 

[Rasputin_M]

Truee fr

Ms. I am little philosophical and boring as well hahahaahahaha .