Don't Carry Their Blame

[ｋａｄａｌ]

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Some people hurt you and then refuse to accept that they hurt you. Instead of saying “I’m sorry,” they turn the whole situation around and make you feel like you are the one who did something wrong. They don't talk about what they did; they talk about how you reacted to it.
They may say, “You are overreacting,” “You are too sensitive,” or “You are the one creating the problem.” Slowly, you may start questioning yourself. You begin to wonder if your feelings are wrong, even though you were simply hurt by their actions. It is like someone breaking a window and then blaming you for being upset about the broken glass.
A healthy person may make mistakes, but they can listen, take responsibility, and understand your pain. A manipulative person often avoids responsibility by changing the story until you start defending yourself instead of asking why they hurt you in the first place.
Remember, your reaction may not always be perfect, but that does not erase what someone did to you. You are allowed to be hurt. You are allowed to speak about it. And you are allowed to walk away from anyone who constantly makes you feel guilty for having feelings.
Don't let someone turn the mirror around until you forget who caused the wound. Sometimes protecting your peace means refusing to carry the blame for someone else's choices.
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[cheetra]

So apt. Self preservation is our own responsibility..

 

[ｋａｄａｌ]

So apt. Self preservation is our own responsibility..

Yeah... So please be responsible.

 

[AARADHYAA❤️]

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Some people hurt you and then refuse to accept that they hurt you. Instead of saying “I’m sorry,” they turn the whole situation around and make you feel like you are the one who did something wrong. They don't talk about what they did; they talk about how you reacted to it.
They may say, “You are overreacting,” “You are too sensitive,” or “You are the one creating the problem.” Slowly, you may start questioning yourself. You begin to wonder if your feelings are wrong, even though you were simply hurt by their actions. It is like someone breaking a window and then blaming you for being upset about the broken glass.
A healthy person may make mistakes, but they can listen, take responsibility, and understand your pain. A manipulative person often avoids responsibility by changing the story until you start defending yourself instead of asking why they hurt you in the first place.
Remember, your reaction may not always be perfect, but that does not erase what someone did to you. You are allowed to be hurt. You are allowed to speak about it. And you are allowed to walk away from anyone who constantly makes you feel guilty for having feelings.
Don't let someone turn the mirror around until you forget who caused the wound. Sometimes protecting your peace means refusing to carry the blame for someone else's choices.
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So true. Sometimes protecting your peace means refusing to carry someone elses blame.

 

[ｋａｄａｌ]

So true. Sometimes protecting your peace means refusing to carry someone elses blame.

I am glad you feel the same way... It sounds perfect in theory, but do you actually find the courage to do this in your own life?

 

[AKKI0]

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Some people hurt you and then refuse to accept that they hurt you. Instead of saying “I’m sorry,” they turn the whole situation around and make you feel like you are the one who did something wrong. They don't talk about what they did; they talk about how you reacted to it.
They may say, “You are overreacting,” “You are too sensitive,” or “You are the one creating the problem.” Slowly, you may start questioning yourself. You begin to wonder if your feelings are wrong, even though you were simply hurt by their actions. It is like someone breaking a window and then blaming you for being upset about the broken glass.
A healthy person may make mistakes, but they can listen, take responsibility, and understand your pain. A manipulative person often avoids responsibility by changing the story until you start defending yourself instead of asking why they hurt you in the first place.
Remember, your reaction may not always be perfect, but that does not erase what someone did to you. You are allowed to be hurt. You are allowed to speak about it. And you are allowed to walk away from anyone who constantly makes you feel guilty for having feelings.
Don't let someone turn the mirror around until you forget who caused the wound. Sometimes protecting your peace means refusing to carry the blame for someone else's choices.
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My approach is simple: just smile and leave them to their own devices—don't say a single word.

 

[AKKI0]

So apt. Self preservation is our own responsibility..

Saving oneself is one's own responsibility, and one should be left to fend for oneself.

 

[ｋａｄａｌ]

Saving oneself is one's own responsibility, and one should be left to fend for oneself.

Yeah... Sometimes the most beautiful closure is realizing they do not deserve a single word more from us.

 

[Anshhi]

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Some people hurt you and then refuse to accept that they hurt you. Instead of saying “I’m sorry,” they turn the whole situation around and make you feel like you are the one who did something wrong. They don't talk about what they did; they talk about how you reacted to it.
They may say, “You are overreacting,” “You are too sensitive,” or “You are the one creating the problem.” Slowly, you may start questioning yourself. You begin to wonder if your feelings are wrong, even though you were simply hurt by their actions. It is like someone breaking a window and then blaming you for being upset about the broken glass.
A healthy person may make mistakes, but they can listen, take responsibility, and understand your pain. A manipulative person often avoids responsibility by changing the story until you start defending yourself instead of asking why they hurt you in the first place.
Remember, your reaction may not always be perfect, but that does not erase what someone did to you. You are allowed to be hurt. You are allowed to speak about it. And you are allowed to walk away from anyone who constantly makes you feel guilty for having feelings.
Don't let someone turn the mirror around until you forget who caused the wound. Sometimes protecting your peace means refusing to carry the blame for someone else's choices.
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Everyone makes mistakes, but instead of apologizing, those who shift the blame to hide their own faults are best walked away from to protect your inner peace.

 

[AKKI0]

Everyone makes mistakes, but instead of apologizing, those who shift the blame to hide their own faults are best walked away from to protect your inner peace.

You are absolutely right; it is better to stay away from people who do not admit their mistakes, because they will never let you be happy. That is why you should be with and talk to someone who understands you and is willing to admit it when they are wrong.

 

[Siddharth1990]

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Some people hurt you and then refuse to accept that they hurt you. Instead of saying “I’m sorry,” they turn the whole situation around and make you feel like you are the one who did something wrong. They don't talk about what they did; they talk about how you reacted to it.
They may say, “You are overreacting,” “You are too sensitive,” or “You are the one creating the problem.” Slowly, you may start questioning yourself. You begin to wonder if your feelings are wrong, even though you were simply hurt by their actions. It is like someone breaking a window and then blaming you for being upset about the broken glass.
A healthy person may make mistakes, but they can listen, take responsibility, and understand your pain. A manipulative person often avoids responsibility by changing the story until you start defending yourself instead of asking why they hurt you in the first place.
Remember, your reaction may not always be perfect, but that does not erase what someone did to you. You are allowed to be hurt. You are allowed to speak about it. And you are allowed to walk away from anyone who constantly makes you feel guilty for having feelings.
Don't let someone turn the mirror around until you forget who caused the wound. Sometimes protecting your peace means refusing to carry the blame for someone else's choices.
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This behavior is a classic sign of emotional manipulation and gaslighting , where someone avoids accountability by attacking your reaction instead of their original action.

 

[AKKI0]

This behavior is a classic sign of emotional manipulation and gaslighting , where someone avoids accountability by attacking your reaction instead of their original action.

So, what is the right thing to do? What would you say
is it right or wrong to save oneself?

 

[Maayaa ❤️]

You can own how you reacted without taking blame for what hurt you.
Someone else’s actions don’t become your fault just because they refuse to take responsibility. Your feelings are valid, and protecting your peace is not selfish.
Don’t carry guilt for wounds you didn’t create. And never let someone rewrite the story until you become the villain in the pain they caused.​

 

[Illuminaty]

yes

 

[JustLikeADream]

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Some people hurt you and then refuse to accept that they hurt you. Instead of saying “I’m sorry,” they turn the whole situation around and make you feel like you are the one who did something wrong. They don't talk about what they did; they talk about how you reacted to it.
They may say, “You are overreacting,” “You are too sensitive,” or “You are the one creating the problem.” Slowly, you may start questioning yourself. You begin to wonder if your feelings are wrong, even though you were simply hurt by their actions. It is like someone breaking a window and then blaming you for being upset about the broken glass.
A healthy person may make mistakes, but they can listen, take responsibility, and understand your pain. A manipulative person often avoids responsibility by changing the story until you start defending yourself instead of asking why they hurt you in the first place.
Remember, your reaction may not always be perfect, but that does not erase what someone did to you. You are allowed to be hurt. You are allowed to speak about it. And you are allowed to walk away from anyone who constantly makes you feel guilty for having feelings.
Don't let someone turn the mirror around until you forget who caused the wound. Sometimes protecting your peace means refusing to carry the blame for someone else's choices.
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So relatable