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Why do people hurt others' feelings?

SumitChing

SumitChing

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People often hurt others emotionally due to their own unresolved pain, insecurities, or a desire for control. Known as "hurt people hurting people," this behavior acts as a projection of self-dislike, low self-esteem, or trauma, where they pass on their suffering to feel more powerful, or simply lack the empathy to recognize the impact of their actions. [1, 2, 3, 4, 5]
Key reasons for emotional harm include:

  • Projecting Internal Pain: People who hold onto trauma or hidden insecurities may subconsciously "flood" or project their pain onto others, often targeting those closest to them to feel better, as discussed on Psychology Today.
  • Need for Power and Control: Individuals who feel disempowered in their own lives may use cruelty to establish dominance in a relationship, according to Quora contributors and Psychology Today.
  • Low Self-Esteem: Belittling or hurting others can temporarily boost a person's low self-worth.
  • "Hurt People Hurt People": This adage suggests that individuals who haven't dealt with their own past trauma or abuse may repeat that cycle of behavior, notes this YouTube video.
  • Jealousy and Insecurity: People may inflict emotional pain out of envy, especially if they feel threatened by a partner's achievements, as noted on BetterHelp.
  • Lack of Empathy/Sadism: In some cases, individuals may not feel the pain they inflict, or they may feel pleasure in causing humiliation or suffering.
  • Misguided Attempt to Get Attention: Sometimes, people act in toxic ways to prompt a specific, intense emotional response, testing relationship boundaries. [1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8]
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SumitChing said:
People often hurt others emotionally due to their own unresolved pain, insecurities, or a desire for control. Known as "hurt people hurting people," this behavior acts as a projection of self-dislike, low self-esteem, or trauma, where they pass on their suffering to feel more powerful, or simply lack the empathy to recognize the impact of their actions. [1, 2, 3, 4, 5]
Key reasons for emotional harm include:

  • Projecting Internal Pain: People who hold onto trauma or hidden insecurities may subconsciously "flood" or project their pain onto others, often targeting those closest to them to feel better, as discussed on Psychology Today.
  • Need for Power and Control: Individuals who feel disempowered in their own lives may use cruelty to establish dominance in a relationship, according to Quora contributors and Psychology Today.
  • Low Self-Esteem: Belittling or hurting others can temporarily boost a person's low self-worth.
  • "Hurt People Hurt People": This adage suggests that individuals who haven't dealt with their own past trauma or abuse may repeat that cycle of behavior, notes this YouTube video.
  • Jealousy and Insecurity: People may inflict emotional pain out of envy, especially if they feel threatened by a partner's achievements, as noted on BetterHelp.
  • Lack of Empathy/Sadism: In some cases, individuals may not feel the pain they inflict, or they may feel pleasure in causing humiliation or suffering.
  • Misguided Attempt to Get Attention: Sometimes, people act in toxic ways to prompt a specific, intense emotional response, testing relationship boundaries. [1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8]
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Sometimes some people use us like mirrors, they want to see their ugly side on us. But remember, if a mirror breaks, it's not the mirror's fault, it's the one who is ugly who is at fault!
Awesome Intelligence ™​
 
SumitChing said:
People often hurt others emotionally due to their own unresolved pain, insecurities, or a desire for control. Known as "hurt people hurting people," this behavior acts as a projection of self-dislike, low self-esteem, or trauma, where they pass on their suffering to feel more powerful, or simply lack the empathy to recognize the impact of their actions. [1, 2, 3, 4, 5]
Key reasons for emotional harm include:

  • Projecting Internal Pain: People who hold onto trauma or hidden insecurities may subconsciously "flood" or project their pain onto others, often targeting those closest to them to feel better, as discussed on Psychology Today.
  • Need for Power and Control: Individuals who feel disempowered in their own lives may use cruelty to establish dominance in a relationship, according to Quora contributors and Psychology Today.
  • Low Self-Esteem: Belittling or hurting others can temporarily boost a person's low self-worth.
  • "Hurt People Hurt People": This adage suggests that individuals who haven't dealt with their own past trauma or abuse may repeat that cycle of behavior, notes this YouTube video.
  • Jealousy and Insecurity: People may inflict emotional pain out of envy, especially if they feel threatened by a partner's achievements, as noted on BetterHelp.
  • Lack of Empathy/Sadism: In some cases, individuals may not feel the pain they inflict, or they may feel pleasure in causing humiliation or suffering.
  • Misguided Attempt to Get Attention: Sometimes, people act in toxic ways to prompt a specific, intense emotional response, testing relationship boundaries. [1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8]
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Itna lamba likh dete ho ...
Padhta hoon to meaning bhul jata...
Meaning samjhta to kya padha o hi bhul jata hoon .
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SumitChing said:
People often hurt others emotionally due to their own unresolved pain, insecurities, or a desire for control. Known as "hurt people hurting people," this behavior acts as a projection of self-dislike, low self-esteem, or trauma, where they pass on their suffering to feel more powerful, or simply lack the empathy to recognize the impact of their actions. [1, 2, 3, 4, 5]
Key reasons for emotional harm include:

  • Projecting Internal Pain: People who hold onto trauma or hidden insecurities may subconsciously "flood" or project their pain onto others, often targeting those closest to them to feel better, as discussed on Psychology Today.
  • Need for Power and Control: Individuals who feel disempowered in their own lives may use cruelty to establish dominance in a relationship, according to Quora contributors and Psychology Today.
  • Low Self-Esteem: Belittling or hurting others can temporarily boost a person's low self-worth.
  • "Hurt People Hurt People": This adage suggests that individuals who haven't dealt with their own past trauma or abuse may repeat that cycle of behavior, notes this YouTube video.
  • Jealousy and Insecurity: People may inflict emotional pain out of envy, especially if they feel threatened by a partner's achievements, as noted on BetterHelp.
  • Lack of Empathy/Sadism: In some cases, individuals may not feel the pain they inflict, or they may feel pleasure in causing humiliation or suffering.
  • Misguided Attempt to Get Attention: Sometimes, people act in toxic ways to prompt a specific, intense emotional response, testing relationship boundaries. [1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8]
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Sometimes people hurt others because they’re hurting inside.

Not everyone knows how to handle emotions, so they pass the pain.

It’s not always intentional—sometimes it’s just a lack of understanding.

Hurt people often end up hurting others.

It says more about them than it does about you.

People don’t always mean to hurt… they just don’t know how to love properly.


The way someone treats you is a reflection of them, not your worth.

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Honey bunch said:
Sometimes people hurt others because they’re hurting inside.

Not everyone knows how to handle emotions, so they pass the pain.

It’s not always intentional—sometimes it’s just a lack of understanding.

Hurt people often end up hurting others.

It says more about them than it does about you.

People don’t always mean to hurt… they just don’t know how to love properly.


The way someone treats you is a reflection of them, not your worth.

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:)
 
Honey bunch said:
Some things deserve more than just a smile…​
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This is absolutely true. Some feelings run so deep that a mere smile simply cannot do them justice. When you mentioned that you feel "too much," these are precisely those moments—instances where the joy is so overwhelming that it brings tears to your eyes, or the sense of peace is so profound that words fall short.
 
SumitChing said:
This is absolutely true. Some feelings run so deep that a mere smile simply cannot do them justice. When you mentioned that you feel "too much," these are precisely those moments—instances where the joy is so overwhelming that it brings tears to your eyes, or the sense of peace is so profound that words fall short.
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Yeah… some feelings don’t need words, they just need someone who understands.​
 
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