Signing DNR for my mother

[BellaLuna]

The toughest decision of my life was not letting mom remarry the guy she once divorced but to sign a paper saying, " Do not resuscitate." In other words that says, "If she collapses, let her die."

Ufff these breaths are making my chest heavy.... I've never been this helpless...

Everytime I thought this is the most soul breaking thing happened to me, there breaks the enduring limit of my soul... God proved me otherwise by giving more tests....

In movies and series they show when your only loved ones are in a hurry to leave this world, a person dies because he/she cannot bear the pain of separation... But look at me, how pathetic my life is... I'm breathing.... I'm breathing...

 

[TestosTerone]

It's really hard I can understand because I have seen my frnd signing it...

Hope u feel stronger and better soon please take care dear @BellaLuna

 

[EkaLustYa]

Breathing is not an act of shame at all. Just hang in there, don’t hang yourself.

 

[ukgirl]

The toughest decision of my life was not letting mom remarry the guy she once divorced but to sign a paper saying, " Do not resuscitate." In other words that says, "If she collapses, let her die."

Ufff these breaths are making my chest heavy.... I've never been this helpless...

Everytime I thought this is the most soul breaking thing happened to me, there breaks the enduring limit of my soul... God proved me otherwise by giving more tests....

In movies and series they show when your only loved ones are in a hurry to leave this world, a person dies because he/she cannot bear the pain of separation... But look at me, how pathetic my life is... I'm breathing.... I'm breathing...

I’m so, so sorry, baby. I know this pain is unbearable—the kind where your heart feels crushed because you love her so much and yet you can’t take her suffering away. Making this decision doesn’t mean you failed her. Signing a DNR is an act of mercy, a final gift of love, choosing peace for her when her body can no longer fight. It’s letting her rest without fear, without torment.

I know how helpless it feels to be asked to decide something so final. I’ve worked with terminal patients before, and I’ve seen how cruel that moment is—the call home, the weight of responsibility when it comes to DNACPR, the realization that love sometimes means letting go. We can’t stop death when it’s already at the doorstep, but we can choose dignity, compassion, and gentleness.

Gather whatever strength you have left and spend these moments with her. Hold her, talk to her, let her feel your love one last time. And please remember, you don’t have to carry this alone.

I’m always just a message away if you need to talk, cry, or simply breathe through the pain...